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Family ConstellationsPersonal Stories of Family Constellations Constellation for someone wishing to enhance success in Work and Creativity I felt very stuck and my projects which I had spent 4years working on were just not taking off, though I was putting a lot of effort into them. This had been a pattern in my life working hard but never really getting the recognition .The constellation work showed that this was connected to five abortions that my grandmother had long ago. Out of love and in honour to them I was carrying the invisibility of them, in other words I was remaining invisibility just like the unborn children of my Grandmother. One month after the constellation my projects started happening by themselves, suddenly there was a beautiful flow without me pushing or working very hard for it. I was also suddenly receiving recognition from many other connections family and friends where it had not been happening before. I am very grateful to this work, my dream is becoming a reality. Debbie A constellation story of someone wishing to look at his connection to his father A unique and powerful approach to cutting through those old family issues and ties that continue to exert unwanted or negative influences on our lives. A non-analytical, non- thinking, no -mind approach to clearing out old "stuff" from our personal closet of issues. This is what a friend of mine promised, and it sounded almost too good to be true. Having run through a whole gamut of different therapy methods in the past such as "primal therapy", group therapy, transactional analysis, Jungian analysis, and others, without somehow being able to effect real permanent changes to some core beliefs around issues such as finances, success, relationships, I was certainly intrigued enough to want to take part in what promised to be an interesting weekend. I arrived in Wales with some degree of scepticism, to be part of a group of perhaps 18-20 individuals. I surprised to find that a whole aspect of family dynamic can be explored over a period which can be as short as 10 minutes, or as long as an hour and a half. Invariably there is a sense of resolution at the end. Occasionally, as in one of my constellations, the opposite can apparently happen! I left the group feeling frustrated and disappointed with myself, and had the impression that the whole constellation had been a waste of time. On the long drive home I struggled with feelings of anger - towards myself, the facilitator, and yet within a week I had received so many obvious positive signs that the process had had a profound and transforming effect on the relationship with my father, that I felt compelled to call her and express my thanks. Within three days, my father had called me up on the telephone twice, and I had spoken to him a third time. This had never happened throughout the previous 30+ years! Within 3 months he came to stay with me for a week, and our relationship has become one in which we can finally talk about issues that previously would have been simple impossible. He has subsequently been to stay on four further occasions over the succeeding 3 years - this from a man who spoke barely six words a day to me between the age of 12 and 20! Charaka has a deep and profound understanding of this process. She brings also to this work her unique caring and supportive style so that the participant feels 'held' , safe, and encouraged to explore the patterns being shown in their constellation. In addition, for anyone not willing to open themselves in a way which many find threatening, and which is generally the case in other types of development work, this is a wonderfully non-invasive and gentle way to look at issues which may still be having an extremely damaging effect on everyday life and living. Constellation work has enormous potential to give insight into long standing troubling family issues and to achieve resolution. After my initial constellation experience, I have returned for other weekends, each time finding myself profoundly touched by witnessing other people's struggles and change, by the caring and supportive way Charaka leads the group, and by my own participation in my own and other people's constellations. I cannot recommend this work enough, and Charaka as an extremely able interpreter of it. Gary Story of a mother and her child Getting Joe Back Before my constellation work I couldn’t imagine my relationship with my son could be different. I had never felt a connection or bond with him and I blamed myself for being a terrible mother. I found it so painful to be with him that I considered letting his father have him full time. After doing constellations I now feel our connection is strong, the bond between us touches and moves me and I feel him in my heart. I have a beautiful son of whom I am proud to be his mum, and I feel he loves me as his mum. I feel blessed. Mary Story about Relationship “I went to Charaka’s family constellation workshop because I wanted to look at my issue of having been single for many years and of wanting to live a healthy and committed relationship. I knew that there was a deep sadness within me that I could sense had been stopping me for a long time from fully connecting to men. I was ready to work on it in a deep way and I knew I would be able to do it in a safe way with Charaka. What happened during my constellation is beyond language. When I arrived at the workshop I was already in tears knowing that something was about to emerge. We started my constellation and it felt as though the sadness of my entire life was being released. My whole body was shaking, I was sobbing as I have never done in this strong way before. The beauty was that this could just happen, Charaka was there and the group around me was holding me too. Then I stopped and felt a great sense of freedom inside me. That was just the beginning of my constellation! Charaka then continued to guide me through the heart of my constellation looking at the connection to my father and his lineage. At the end I felt that a big shift had happened; I felt so light, free and at peace with myself. And I knew that something good was about to happen. The way Charaka tunes into each person and their story is fascinating, magical and touching at the same time. She is a real master at establishing rapport, at tuning into each person’s issue, and at holding the space for each individual and the group so that she and the group can be present for the work and support each other in a very connected and deep way. The learning doesn’t just happen in your own constellation but also through the other family stories. Family constellations are a beautiful way of giving and receiving. Karen Story on connecting with other's "Before the workshop, I had this strong
urge to attend my first Family Constellation
with Charaka as I've been avoiding my family
for years but knew I had to address the deep
unconscious issues I have with them in order
to fully connect with Life at all levels. I've
always felt that I've been in a glass box and
not able to emotionally connect to people properly.
I've done 10 years of healing work on myself
and was looking for something that would get
right to the root of this particular issue
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